I am a 20-year old female college student. I have always desired to remain abstinent until marriage and fully intend to keep that promise to myself and to God. My boyfriend is a 27-year old professional who lives in a remote town and is very lonely... who feels the same as I do, and it helps that we both want to save ourselves for marriage. God blessed humans by making them very sexual animals, my boyfriend has gone 27 years without a girlfriend or intimacy, and we have found ourselves … [Read more...]
How Can I Keep My Boyfriend Pure?
This is a letter from a reader with a typical relationship situation in college. It is shared with the intention that her struggle and the responses she received will benefit others who are experiencing similar situations. Hi, my name is Tracy and I need some advice. I am a 19-year old college student and I have been in a long distance relationship. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years and have decided to wait until marriage to have sex. Only we are not completely pure, there has … [Read more...]
What If We Love Each Other?
by J. Budziszewski Dear Professor Theophilus: I have a question that may sound a little bit hypocritical coming from a follower of Jesus, but I wanted to ask someone I could trust, who didn't know me, and who wouldn't release my name. I've really enjoyed the tips and articles here on the Boundless webzine, and my mother listens to Focus on the Family all the time on the radio, so I am really familiar with you guys. I have been in Christian school for most of my life, I go to a wonderful … [Read more...]
Roommates of the Opposite Sex
Another interesting point raised by J. Budziszewski about two people of the opposite sex living together in one apartment. "No we never think about sex, we strictly roommates!" Does It Matter Who You Live With? by J. Budziszewski I cannot possibly see how it is wrong or unbiblical to rent an apartment with a person of the opposite sex. We're close, but I can honestly say that we've never thought about sleeping with each other. I don't believe you, but thanks for writing. Is that all … [Read more...]
Why Shouldn’t I…? Sex, Love, and Marriage
By Chuck Colson Question 59: Don't all the negative rules Christians have about sex come from a hatred for the body? Don't they treat the body as if it were dirty? Question 60: Why are Christians so hung up about sex? Question 61: Why should I wait to have sex until I'm married? Question 62: But everybody takes having sex before marriage for granted. How can our whole society be wrong? Question 63: But a guy needs sex. Isn't it just a natural function? Question 79: My school hands out … [Read more...]