Another interesting point raised by J. Budziszewski about two people of the opposite sex living together in one apartment. “No we never think about sex, we strictly roommates!”
Does It Matter Who You Live With?
by J. Budziszewski
I cannot possibly see how it is wrong or unbiblical to rent an apartment with a person of the opposite sex. We’re close, but I can honestly say that we’ve never thought about sleeping with each other.
I don’t believe you, but thanks for writing.
Is that all you have to say to me?
I don’t think you should believe yourself either.
You’re not taking me seriously.
I am taking you seriously — but you aren’t taking the difference between male and female seriously. Here are some more considerations:
You may tell me that you’ve never thought about sex, but if you’re the girl and he’s the guy, you can be sure that he has.
You may tell me that you’ve never thought about sex, but if you’re the girl, you can’t tell me that you’ve never thought about romance.
If you’re the guy, ask yourself this question. You’ve just learned that before meeting you, your sweetheart lived three years with Fabio. She says sex never even crossed their minds. Do you believe her?
Sex or no sex, thoughts or no thoughts, the situation is inherently unchaste; it corrodes the virtue of modesty. I suppose you’ll tell me that you’ve never eaten breakfast or watched TV together in your bathrobes, or hung your stockings over the shower rail to dry.
It’s wrong not only to commit sin, but to give the appearance of committing sin. Doing so shows lack of love for others, because you’re demoralizing them through bad example.
Finally, you wanted Bible, so here’s Bible. Modesty is a biblical virtue; avoiding not only evil, but the appearance of evil, is a biblical precept; and avoiding not only sin, but the risk of sin, is a counsel of biblical wisdom. “Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?” (Proverbs 6:27-28, NIV.)
Taken from: J. Budziszewski, “Taking Things Seriously,” Boundless, 2000, 2 August 2002.